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beyond the binaries

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Different types of attraction.

asexualeducation:

Sexual attraction: When one desires to have sexual relations with another specific person or persons. Sometimes it is felt along with other forms of attraction such as, romance, friendship.

“That guy is so damn sexy, I could take him to bed and shag him all night long.”

Romantic attraction: When one desires to have a romantic relationship with another specific person or persons. Many people who are asexual may experience romantic attraction even though they do not experience sexual attraction.

“Oh wow, that girl is so beautiful, I would really like to get to know her better and show her off. She’s the type of girl I would love to get into a romantic relationship with.”

Aesthetic attraction: When one sees another person or persons as attractive, nice looking, handsome or beautiful, but does not feel any desire to be in a romantic, sexual or sensual relationship with them.

“Oh my gosh, that man is quite attractive, I appreciate how handsome his face is and how lean is body looks. If I could, I would hang him up on a wall and look at him all day”

Sensual attraction: When ones sees another person or persons and desires to do sensual (but NOT sexual) things with them. Such sensual things may include, kissing, hugging, holding hands.

“Look at that woman, she is quite a sight for sore eyes. I would very much love to cuddle with her, kiss her forehead and perhaps hold her hand as we walked through the park.”

Squish: When ones sees another person or persons and desires an aromantic friendship with them.

“Look at how cool that boy is, I would love to get to know him more, I bet he’s a great person to hang out with and talk to.”

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submission from forreal3: hi, im Troi… i take pride in being a gender-benging, gender queer, i also identify as female or male or neither, lesbian, gay, gueer. im pretty new to Tumblr.. could use some new friends:)

submission from forreal3:

hi, im Troi…

i take pride in being a gender-benging, gender queer, i also identify as female or male or neither, lesbian, gay, gueer.

im pretty new to Tumblr.. could use some new friends:)

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Talkin’ ‘Bout My S-S-S-Socialization

iamgrey:

Excerpted from Natalie Reed’s blog:

Growing up amidst male socialization when one’s gender identity is not consistent with it is a horrifying and traumatic experience. Nothing about it is in any way a privilege, and one does not internalize or adapt to it in a manner at all similar to how a cis man does. Rather than it being a means through which one develops confidence and a sense of power and entitlement, eventually taking one’s vantage point for granted, it is instead a painful, self-erasing performance one has been forced to adopt. One has a constant inner checklist of the behaviours and mannerisms you’re supposed to display in order to avoid being seen as girly and consequently ridiculed or beaten up. Instead of gaining the benefits of being the “superior” class within our cultural gender dynamics, you’re instead experiencing an extremely harsh, constraining prison of gender’s unspoken rules and regulations. Instead of internalizing a sense of being the default, favoured, normal gender, you internalize scripts, shame, self-hatred and the need to police your own gender- police your expression, your personality, your interests, the ways in which you interact with others, anything that could end up with you getting “caught” and revealing how you’re not normal, you’re inferior, broken and wrong.

This is painfully accurate.

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