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dearcissexism:

ryankun:

what not to do when someone asks you to use certain pronouns

• ask them why
• ask them whats between their legs
• tell them theyre wrong
• hammer them with personal questions

what to do when someone asks you to use certain pronouns:

• call them by those pronouns
• have a snack if you want w/e youre pretty much done here

Addition:

What not to do:

• Tell them that’s not a “real” pronoun

What to do:

• Ask them how to use it if you’re not sure

(Source: baby-dodongo, via pansexualpride)

Asexuality and sexuality are not black and white; some people identify in the gray (spelled “grey” in some countries) area between them. People who identify as gray-A can include, but are not limited to those who:

• do not normally experience sexual attraction, but do experience it sometimes
• experience sexual attraction, but a low sex drive
• experience sexual attraction and drive, but not strongly enough to want to act on them
• people who can enjoy and desire sex, but only under very limited and specific circumstances
• people who experience some parts of sexuality but not others

Some people choose to identify with the gray area, even though most AVENites would consider them asexual, because they prefer a narrower definition of asexuality than AVEN’s. For example, an asexual with a sex drive who prefers the nonlibidoist definition of asexuality might identify as semisexual rather than asexual.

Similarly, some people who might technically belong to the gray area choose to identify as asexual because it is easier to explain. For example, if someone has experienced sexual attraction on one or two brief, fleeting occasions in their life, they might prefer to call themselves asexual because it is not worth the bother of having to explain these one or two occasions to everyone who asks about their orientation.

(via fuckyeahaces)

fuckyeahmenfolk:

fuckyeahasexualporn:

Asexuality: Not experiencing sexual attraction
Demisexuality: Not experiencing primary sexual attraction, only when a strong emotional bond is formed
Grey-A: Identifying in the grey area of sexuality, between asexuality and sexuality

Asexuality ≠ Celibacy
Love ≠ Sex
Marriage ≠ Sex
Sexual attraction ≠ Sexual behaviour
Sexual orientation ≠ Romantic orientation
Asexuality ≠ Slut-shaming
Demisexuality ≠ Slut-shaming
Sexual ≠ Slut
Having sex ≠ Slut

Asexuality is something that often gets left out in discussing queer orientations.

(Source: )

Submitted by chirpchirrup:

I love being able to constantly educate myself on trans* and other LGBTQ and gender issues, and came across a powerpoint used by one man to inform his family that pretty much summed up everything I had ever learned quite neatly. It can be found here.

The thing is, I can’t for the life of me remember where it came from. I’m pretty sure I found it through Tumblr, but I can’t remember anything else. If anyone happens to know the source, I would be very grateful.

It was made by Charles from unicornsareace (here’s the original post). It’s a great resource!

itsanacelife:

Asexual — A person who does not experience sexual attraction towards anyone. Asexuals come in many shapes and flavours, have various attitudes towards sex, view their asexuality in different ways and are extremely diverse.

Indifferent — A word used to describe asexuals who, in a nutshell, don’t particularly mind the idea of having sex someday.

Repulsed — A word used to describe asexuals who want nothing to do with sex. They don’t have to be antisexual, they just don’t want to take part in sexual activities.

It’s important to note that the words “indifferent” and “repulsed” as used in the asexual community are different from how they’re used in general — e.g., an indifferent ace may actually be genuinely interested in sex.

Romantic orientation — Just like sexual orientation, except describes with which gender(s) a person wants to form romantic relationships rather than have sex. Sexual and romantic orientation don’t need to be congruent — it’s entirely possible for someone to be, for example, pansexual and homoromantic.

Aromantic — Generally understood to mean “never falls in love, disinterested in forming romantic relationships”, but it can be more complicated, for example only retaining the second half of that definition. Ace romance sure is weird!

Grey-A — A catch-all term for everything between sexual and asexual. There is no simple definition of grey-A, except that if you feel neither fully sexual nor fully asexual, it’s something you might call yourself.

Demisexual — Oh dear, this one’s a bit complicated. Basically, a demisexual person’s default state is asexual, but they’re capable of experiencing sexual attraction in connection to romantic attraction — or, in simpler terms, when they are in love.

These are just the basic and most well-known terms related to asexuality. New words, labels and identities (such as demiromantic) pop up every now and then, but they aren’t very widespread at this point.

Also, these are just simple definitions of the terms; if we tried to decide what exactly aromantic or indifferent mean, it would probably be a long debate.

Please let me know if I’ve left out anything important!

(Source: , via fuckyeahaces)