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Profile: Nic — Genderfork You can call me… Nic… or Nicole for long. (Neither are my birth name, but I NEVER use my birth name, regardless of being male or female.) I identify as… I am a human. I am Italian. I am a New Yorker (but one of those rare nice New Yorker who yearns to be Californian.) I am a bigender male who prefers to be androgynous or female. As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t really care if I am called him or her. “Him” makes it easier for people who are used to me being a “him,” and when I am presenting as androgynous. I really like it when people use “her” but I won’t bite your head off if you don’t use it. I’m attracted to… I am absolutely, without a doubt, 100% bisexual, but I’ve only been truly emotionally connected to one other person. That’s another story I don’t care to discuss. When people talk about me, I want them to… talk about my talents in photography and filmmaking. Talk about my good qualities and forget the bad. If they should feel compelled to talk about how I am bisexual, bigendered, androgynous, I want them to talk like it’s a good thing as opposed to something I have to “live with.” I want people to understand… negative comments hurt. Negative anything hurts. (Except a double negative because that always makes a positive [insert math lesson here]). I don’t stay within gender boundaries because gender is fluid. I am not your regular average Joe (or Jane) but that’s not because of the way I present and the gender I identify with. I am different because everyone is different. If we were all the same we would be big blobs of gray matter. And blobs of gray matter are no fun. (Just ask high school lunch ladies.) About Nic Nic is an 18-year-old filmmaker/photographer from New York. She is currently a freshman in college and is working on her BFA in film. For the last year she has worked at an off-off broadway theater as a stagehand and assistant scenic designer and also as a freelance photographer. To view Nic’s photography portfolio visit http://www.flickr.com/nicfornario.

Profile: Nic — Genderfork

You can call me… Nic… or Nicole for long. (Neither are my birth name, but I NEVER use my birth name, regardless of being male or female.)

I identify as… I am a human.

I am Italian.

I am a New Yorker (but one of those rare nice New Yorker who yearns to be Californian.)

I am a bigender male who prefers to be androgynous or female.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t really care if I am called him or her.

“Him” makes it easier for people who are used to me being a “him,” and when I am presenting as androgynous.

I really like it when people use “her” but I won’t bite your head off if you don’t use it.

I’m attracted to… I am absolutely, without a doubt, 100% bisexual, but I’ve only been truly emotionally connected to one other person. That’s another story I don’t care to discuss.

When people talk about me, I want them to… talk about my talents in photography and filmmaking.

Talk about my good qualities and forget the bad.

If they should feel compelled to talk about how I am bisexual, bigendered, androgynous, I want them to talk like it’s a good thing as opposed to something I have to “live with.”

I want people to understand… negative comments hurt.

Negative anything hurts. (Except a double negative because that always makes a positive [insert math lesson here]). I don’t stay within gender boundaries because gender is fluid.

I am not your regular average Joe (or Jane) but that’s not because of the way I present and the gender I identify with. I am different because everyone is different. If we were all the same we would be big blobs of gray matter. And blobs of gray matter are no fun. (Just ask high school lunch ladies.)

About Nic

Nic is an 18-year-old filmmaker/photographer from New York. She is currently a freshman in college and is working on her BFA in film. For the last year she has worked at an off-off broadway theater as a stagehand and assistant scenic designer and also as a freelance photographer. To view Nic’s photography portfolio visit http://www.flickr.com/nicfornario.

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Profile: Mike/Mia — Genderfork [Image description: Person with medium length brown hair pulled back in a hairclip on one side, wearing a white shirt and a grey-and-white striped scarf.] You can call me… Mike, Mia, or just M works. It depends on who is present at the time. I identify as… Bigender. Two halves of a whole. Two souls in one body: one the monotonous and seemingly straight-laced male I grew up being, and the other the coy, fun-loving but somewhat bitchy lesbian who I’ve recently come to terms with. (Mia’s been rubbing off on Mike lately, though, with positive results.) As far as third-person pronouns go, … together we prefer plural “they,” but separately, we like our respective gender pronouns. Mike is male, Mia is female. I’m attracted to… The lifestyle, the scene, the community. All things genderqueer have come into focus, and it’s something we’d never want to let go of. Intelligence, creativity, being slightly outside the norms of conventional societal structure… artists, writers, dancers, activists, anyone with passion about what they do. When people talk about me, I want them to… realize that there’s more to a person than how they present themselves; that just because I may seem like a normal trans-supporter cis guy on the outside doesn’t mean that is the extent of my personality. There’s another side to everyone; mine just happens to be someone else entirely. We aren’t just differentiated by our genders. I want people to understand… that Mia isn’t a figment of my imagination or some psychotic episode. That even when I’m in control she’s listening, and she’s really sensitive underneath her hard exterior. I’ve come to love her like a sister, and the more she develops the more protective I am of her. Integrating her into me would be like killing her, and I never want to do that. Besides, we’re both having a lot of fun. About Mike/Mia Mike is a photography student who grew up in New York before going to Chicago. Never identifying with cis male culture (or gay male culture for that matter) yet interested in women, he thoughts turned to the lesbian community, but he had no way of expressing interest in this area. Later when a friend became trans, the trans and queer community opened up, and new insight revealed a comfortable niche to inhabit. With the suggestion of “maybe you’re a lesbian” having time to germinate in his head, Dissociative Identity Disorder soon set in.  Mia was born as an alternate personality, followed by the discovery of the Bigender identifier that they now use to describe themselves. The two are firmly different people, despite residing in the same body, and are now looking for a comfortable middle-ground for the both of them. Mia doesn’t get out as often as she likes, especially when we’re at home for the holidays (like now). Most of the time this results in her getting bored and posting to our blog, which can provide more insight into our inner workings: mpalla.livejournal.com

Profile: Mike/Mia — Genderfork

[Image description: Person with medium length brown hair pulled back in a hairclip on one side, wearing a white shirt and a grey-and-white striped scarf.]

You can call me… Mike, Mia, or just M works. It depends on who is present at the time.

I identify as… Bigender. Two halves of a whole. Two souls in one body: one the monotonous and seemingly straight-laced male I grew up being, and the other the coy, fun-loving but somewhat bitchy lesbian who I’ve recently come to terms with. (Mia’s been rubbing off on Mike lately, though, with positive results.)

As far as third-person pronouns go, … together we prefer plural “they,” but separately, we like our respective gender pronouns. Mike is male, Mia is female.

I’m attracted to… The lifestyle, the scene, the community. All things genderqueer have come into focus, and it’s something we’d never want to let go of. Intelligence, creativity, being slightly outside the norms of conventional societal structure… artists, writers, dancers, activists, anyone with passion about what they do.

When people talk about me, I want them to… realize that there’s more to a person than how they present themselves; that just because I may seem like a normal trans-supporter cis guy on the outside doesn’t mean that is the extent of my personality. There’s another side to everyone; mine just happens to be someone else entirely. We aren’t just differentiated by our genders.

I want people to understand… that Mia isn’t a figment of my imagination or some psychotic episode. That even when I’m in control she’s listening, and she’s really sensitive underneath her hard exterior. I’ve come to love her like a sister, and the more she develops the more protective I am of her. Integrating her into me would be like killing her, and I never want to do that. Besides, we’re both having a lot of fun.

About Mike/Mia
Mike is a photography student who grew up in New York before going to Chicago. Never identifying with cis male culture (or gay male culture for that matter) yet interested in women, he thoughts turned to the lesbian community, but he had no way of expressing interest in this area. Later when a friend became trans, the trans and queer community opened up, and new insight revealed a comfortable niche to inhabit.

With the suggestion of “maybe you’re a lesbian” having time to germinate in his head, Dissociative Identity Disorder soon set in.  Mia was born as an alternate personality, followed by the discovery of the Bigender identifier that they now use to describe themselves. The two are firmly different people, despite residing in the same body, and are now looking for a comfortable middle-ground for the both of them.

Mia doesn’t get out as often as she likes, especially when we’re at home for the holidays (like now). Most of the time this results in her getting bored and posting to our blog, which can provide more insight into our inner workings:

mpalla.livejournal.com

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I think it would be nice if EVERYONE was able to be first judged on their character, not what might be under their clothes. I think that androgyny might sometimes be a blessing, that some people should be forced by an absence of gender presentation to consider the PERSON standing before them.
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