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Molly picked a “boy” bear and named him Adam. As we were waiting in the couch area for Anneke to pick up her suit she began to admire her new outfits and dress her new bear.

“Look mommy, does this look nice?” she showed me the above bikini clad bear.

“That’s a bikini. It looks pretty, but I thought you wanted Adam to be a boy bear?”

“He is a boy, mom, he’s trans-gendered. He likes to wear girls clothes. Does he look pretty? Do you like it?”

“Looks great sweetie, can I take a picture?” Secretly tickeled by how gender-bending my youngest child has become.

“Sure, why?”

“I don’t know, I just think its cute you have a transgendered bear.”

“Ok” she shrugged, and proceeded to try on all her new outfits on Adam, likely “Build-a-bear“‘s first transgendered bear.

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Gender Stereotypes

Three third-graders tackle the issue of gender norms and what happens when you break them.

Here’s part of the interview with Merlin, who wears pink:

"Are you ever called a sissy?" "No, but what they say is ‘you’re gay’. And I don’t get that. First of all, what’s wrong with being gay? And second of all, how does wearing pink make me gay?"

Watch the documentary to hear the opinion of enlightened 9-year olds who describe stereotypes as “restricting” and “controlling”.

Video found via genderfork.

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Lilly and Thomasina

"Do you ever feel just like a normal kid?"

"Sometimes. When I’m just at home and doing stuff with my friends or watching TV or something, I don’t really think about it or I feel like I’m a normal kid."

"A boy or a girl?"

"No, a lot of the time I just think of myself as a regular person. Because I don’t feel like I’m different, and I don’t think anything about my gender — I just think I’m a person.”

(Conversation between Lilly and Thomasina, two trans 8-year-olds. This dialogue was part of an episode of This American Life that aired an year ago. It’s such a sweet story, and their parents are very understanding.)

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Kids don’t have much of a concept of gender at two. It’s like my friend’s daughter who told him she was going to grow “big hairy breasts just like Daddy.”
Cate - Fag

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Team of Researchers Blames Children's Films for Perpetuating "Heteronormativity"

The results, say the researchers, illustrate two ways that the children’s films “construct heterosexuality”: through “depictions of hetero-romantic love as exceptional, powerful, transformative, and magical,” and “depictions of interactions between gendered bodies in which the sexiness of feminine characters is subjected to the gaze of masculine characters.” (…)

The team says the results point to heterosexuality achieving a “taken-for-granted status” “because hetero-romance is depicted as powerful.”

"Both ordinary and exceptional constructions of heterosexuality work to normalize its status because it becomes difficult to imagine anything other than this form of social relationship or anyone outside of these bonds," they concluded.

This is a really homophobic site, but the journalist hardly goes out of the way to criticize the study; she probably thinks it’s so fantastically and obviously silly by itself. I find the study to be scarily accurate.

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