genderqueer

Profile: Nic — Genderfork

You can call me… Nic… or Nicole for long. (Neither are my birth name, but I NEVER use my birth name, regardless of being male or female.)

I identify as… I am a human.

I am Italian.

I am a New Yorker (but one of those rare nice New Yorker who yearns to be Californian.)

I am a bigender male who prefers to be androgynous or female.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t really care if I am called him or her.

“Him” makes it easier for people who are used to me being a “him,” and when I am presenting as androgynous.

I really like it when people use “her” but I won’t bite your head off if you don’t use it.

I’m attracted to… I am absolutely, without a doubt, 100% bisexual, but I’ve only been truly emotionally connected to one other person. That’s another story I don’t care to discuss.

When people talk about me, I want them to… talk about my talents in photography and filmmaking.

Talk about my good qualities and forget the bad.

If they should feel compelled to talk about how I am bisexual, bigendered, androgynous, I want them to talk like it’s a good thing as opposed to something I have to “live with.”

I want people to understand… negative comments hurt.

Negative anything hurts. (Except a double negative because that always makes a positive [insert math lesson here]). I don’t stay within gender boundaries because gender is fluid.

I am not your regular average Joe (or Jane) but that’s not because of the way I present and the gender I identify with. I am different because everyone is different. If we were all the same we would be big blobs of gray matter. And blobs of gray matter are no fun. (Just ask high school lunch ladies.)

About Nic

Nic is an 18-year-old filmmaker/photographer from New York. She is currently a freshman in college and is working on her BFA in film. For the last year she has worked at an off-off broadway theater as a stagehand and assistant scenic designer and also as a freelance photographer. To view Nic’s photography portfolio visit http://www.flickr.com/nicfornario.

Profile: Mike/Mia — Genderfork

[Image description: Person with medium length brown hair pulled back in a hairclip on one side, wearing a white shirt and a grey-and-white striped scarf.]

You can call me… Mike, Mia, or just M works. It depends on who is present at the time.

I identify as… Bigender. Two halves of a whole. Two souls in one body: one the monotonous and seemingly straight-laced male I grew up being, and the other the coy, fun-loving but somewhat bitchy lesbian who I’ve recently come to terms with. (Mia’s been rubbing off on Mike lately, though, with positive results.)

As far as third-person pronouns go, … together we prefer plural “they,” but separately, we like our respective gender pronouns. Mike is male, Mia is female.

I’m attracted to… The lifestyle, the scene, the community. All things genderqueer have come into focus, and it’s something we’d never want to let go of. Intelligence, creativity, being slightly outside the norms of conventional societal structure… artists, writers, dancers, activists, anyone with passion about what they do.

When people talk about me, I want them to… realize that there’s more to a person than how they present themselves; that just because I may seem like a normal trans-supporter cis guy on the outside doesn’t mean that is the extent of my personality. There’s another side to everyone; mine just happens to be someone else entirely. We aren’t just differentiated by our genders.

I want people to understand… that Mia isn’t a figment of my imagination or some psychotic episode. That even when I’m in control she’s listening, and she’s really sensitive underneath her hard exterior. I’ve come to love her like a sister, and the more she develops the more protective I am of her. Integrating her into me would be like killing her, and I never want to do that. Besides, we’re both having a lot of fun.

About Mike/Mia
Mike is a photography student who grew up in New York before going to Chicago. Never identifying with cis male culture (or gay male culture for that matter) yet interested in women, he thoughts turned to the lesbian community, but he had no way of expressing interest in this area. Later when a friend became trans, the trans and queer community opened up, and new insight revealed a comfortable niche to inhabit.

With the suggestion of “maybe you’re a lesbian” having time to germinate in his head, Dissociative Identity Disorder soon set in.  Mia was born as an alternate personality, followed by the discovery of the Bigender identifier that they now use to describe themselves. The two are firmly different people, despite residing in the same body, and are now looking for a comfortable middle-ground for the both of them.

Mia doesn’t get out as often as she likes, especially when we’re at home for the holidays (like now). Most of the time this results in her getting bored and posting to our blog, which can provide more insight into our inner workings:

mpalla.livejournal.com

Profile: Dreux — Genderfork

[Image description: A dark skinned person with short, dark, curly hair. He is standing against a blank white wall and is holding a blue towel up over his chest, which appears to be bare.]

You can call me… Dreux

I identify as… genderqueer. Embracing and loving the boi that I am, but also aware of my feminine traits.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer to be called “he.” Being called “she” makes me feel weird and uncomfortable. I hate being called “honey,” “mami,” “suga,” etc.

I’m attracted to… I’m attracted to ultra feminine women and the occasional prettyboi. My attraction levels are far and in-between.

When people talk about me, I want them to… realize that although I was born female, that doesn’t mean I agree with that.

I want people to understand… that I’m borderline FTM, there are just somethings I don’t agree with, and I am comfortable and happy in my school being a gentleman. I can adjust to any situation as long as you are respecting my wishes.

About Dreux
I’m Dreux. I’m genderqueer. I’m very different or weirder than anyone you have ever encountered. I believe in the unbelievable. I’m a writer,graphic designer,alien. http://flavors.me/prettiboidreux

Profile: Dustin — Genderfork

[Image description: A person with blond hair and a beard, wearing a purple plaid shirt and smiling broadly. Ze is sitting outside in front of a night sky.]

You can call me… Dustin or Redbeard

I identify as… a genderqueer, pansexual individual. I have no problem being male-bodied, and I have yet to feel the need to ‘feminize’ anything about myself.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … ze and hir are preferable, but if I corrected people every time they used male pronouns when referring to me, it’d be a full time job. So I’ve kinda learned to just deal with it.

I’m attracted to… women of just about all types, men with beards, tattoos and long hair, just about anyone in the rainbow of genders that leans more towards the ‘female’ side, etc etc.

When people talk about me, I want them to… keep the person inside this shell in mind, instead of the shell itself.

I want people to understand… that the gender binary isn’t a mandatory thing to adhere to. Also, as another profile says, the difference between your and you’re!

About Dustin or Redbeard
I’m a single parent of a wonderful child. Keeping up with political issues is a passion of mine.

Profile: Richard — Genderfork

You can call me… Richard, Richie, Rich, Bitch, Kitty, Venus

I identify as… half-and-half, the best of both worlds, androgynous-positive, ambigendered, a biracial Asian American

As far as third-person pronouns go, … anything goes. Male, female, gender-neutral…it’s all good!

I’m attracted to… men, about 90% of the time.

When people talk about me, I want them to… notice how many assumptions they make.

I want people to understand… my occasional facial/body hair doesn’t invalidate my gender identity, just like my white dad doesn’t invalidate my racial identity.

About Richard, Richie, Rich, Bitch, Kitty, Venus
I am an androgynous Laotian-Irish American politiqueer college student from Texas, living in Boston. I have a suitcase devoted to female (and Michael Jackson) impersonation. I’ve been compared to Roger, the alien from American Dad, in that I play with gender and have multiple personae.

Profile: Evan — Genderfork

You can call me… Evan
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I identify as… a polyamorous pansexual g3 (gendergiftedguy). American of African descent. A member of the human species. An immortal soul of love and light.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer he though recently I used hir when I was writing something describing a situation in my past. Never thought I’d use the ‘other’ pronouns. But it was the best choice to encompass the complexity of my current perspective of my life and my past experiences.

Profile: Finch — Genderfork

You can call me… Finch

I identify as… a homopunk, genderfuck, tranny terrorist, anarcho-queer, monstrosity.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … they,their,them,she,her,hers.

I’m attracted to… assortments of queerness.

When people talk about me, I want them to… smile and laugh at gender norms.

I want people to understand… that ladies have five o clock shadow too.

Profile: Erin — Genderfork

You can call me… Erin.

I identify as… Gender neutral or gender varient, lesbian.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … You, Erin, They, Hey.

I’m attracted to… butch women, transmen, andro women, gendervarient peoples, laughter, inner strength, humor.

When people talk about me, I want them to… not look at me like I am some sort of alien from another planet out to give them an anal probe and kidnap their daughters. That was scheduled for next Tuesday…

I want people to understand… That it doesn’t matter what is ‘down there’ because it is only flesh that has nothing to do with the rest of me, and really, who is ever 100% their born gender 100% of the time?

About Erin
I am 25. I identify as gender neutral, and identify as lesbian. I love reading, writing and watching TV/movies. I can’t say I am the most intelligent person, but I think I can hold my own enough to make jokes.

Profile: Ergane — Genderfork

You can call me… NeNe (or Ergane (er-GAH-nay), preferably)

I identify as… A Klein 5.6, gender non-normative, genderqueer, trans-mesh, genderfluid, gay

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer gender-neutral… “E went to the store.” “That is em bag.”

I’m attracted to… Innards and outtards. (Read that how you like.)

When people talk about me, I want them to… smile at me. I’m kinda beautiful. ;)

I want people to understand… that body parts does not a gender dictate and to experience me as the person I am instead of trying to fit me into some box. I want people to understand that I am not trying to be difficult, but true to myself and to live as authentically and as honestly as I can… I am trapped in a body, but it is just a body — it really ain’t that serious!

About Ergane
Ergane Quentin lives in Seattle, WA.

Profile: Magdelyn — Genderfork

You can call me… magdelyn

I identify as… transcendental idealist tranz explosion (or just transcendental tranny).

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t care.